myths and facts about the christian counseling experience
"Truthful words stand the test of time, but lies are soon exposed". Proverbs 12:19
Myth 1 - Christians don't need counselors, they should be able to read the Bible and live Godly lives without others' influence.
God made us as social creatures. He did not intend for us to be alone and rely on our own knowledge and ideas. He expects us to seek counsel from others that He has given appropriate gifts so that they may be of support and help. "Without wise leadership, a nation is in trouble; but with good counselors there is safety". Proverbs 11:14 "Plans go wrong with too few counselors; many counselors bring success". Proverbs 15:22
Myth 2 - If I start Counseling, I will have to continue to go for the rest of my life.
Our goal is to help you overcome whatever problem or issue that is bothering you and give you tools that you can use whenever you encounter new problems or reencounter old ones. It is our hope that this can be done in a very brief period and it usually is. For many people, counseling requires a limited number of sessions. Those with more difficult problems may find it useful to continue with visits as long as improvement is being seen.
Myth 3 - Counseling is expensive and I probably cannot afford it.
The cost of counseling is not cheap. It costs in terms of time, effort, commitment and financial resources. When your problem has great impact on your family, friends, your marriage, your relatives and your job, the need to seek a solution can far outweigh the cost in terms of money, time and effort. At McMahan Counseling, we seek to help those in need by setting the cost at a level that avoids greater stress. The benefits of counseling far outweigh the cost. Almost all people have a limit to their financial resources. Money is a necessity, but we at McMahan Counseling have made a commitment to God that money will not be a reason for you to not receive what God has in store for you. Talk with us and we will wok with you.
Myth 4 - Counseling is only for people who are crazy.
Counseling is a way of obtaining a new skills, new viewpoints, or new ways of thinking, that help people cope with their everyday lives. We don't counsel “crazy people;” “crazy people” cannot learn the skills we provide. All of our clients are people just like you and me who have somewhere in their life become overwhelmed by events of the past, stresses of the day, or poor learning patterns all of which can potentially be dealt with. We can all benefit from counseling and perhaps all should have the opportunity to improve our lives through good, scripturally based counseling.
Myth 5 - I am already overwhelmed with all the things in my life, I don't have the time to go to counseling.
Often we find that the reasons we need counseling are the very things that have overwhelmed us and are taking huge chunks of time out of our lives. These concerns are preventing us from having the time to get organized, learn what we need to learn, and take care of the people and things we need to take care of. Our struggles eat away at more time and our resources. The time invested in counseling is typically an hour a week or less. Many people can achieve their counseling goals in a limited number of visits and begin to turn their lives around as a result. The question is, can you really afford not to find the time for counseling?
Myth 6 - A Christian Counselor will just preach to me and give me nothing more than I can get in Sunday School or Church.
A Christian Counselor will not preach to you. They will look at where you are in your Christian walk as well as your everyday behaviors and thought patterns, and compare them to where you and God expect you to be. They will help you see your life the way God sees it by applying both biblical principles and sound, well trained, experienced counseling/therapeutic methodology.
Myth 7 - Men Don’t Need to Talk About Their Problems. Weak Men Seek Counseling.
Healthy pride helps men hold their heads high, but false pride is a barrier to a fulfilling life, healthy relationships and success. Counseling can help you identify your strengths and offer keys to a more successful personal and professional life.
Myth 8 - I don't want everybody knowing my business or to know I'm going to counseling.
When you go to counseling people will only know that you are in counseling if you tell them. Professional counselors are bound by a strict "Code of Ethics" that requires all counseling to be done under the most strict confidentiality. Records must be kept under lock and key, and we adhere to HIPAA laws. In order for any information you provide during counseling to be acknowledged or shared with others, including your spouse or other relatives, you would have to provide us a release in writing indicating that you approve for that information to be released.
Myth 9 - Paying to go to counseling is ridiculous when I have friends and family who can listen and advise me.
It is wonderful if you have friends and family who will listen and discuss your problems with you. It would be great if everyone had such loyal support. Hopefully, they will continue to support you when you try to change behavior, or need to dedicate time to recovery or learning new habits. Often we find that friends and family, will advise, but the advice either comes from what they read, have been told or believe. Often it is neither factual nor accurate. Like many of the myths above, a lot of information you may receive can be wrong or not just not very useful in a healing way. Unfortunately, there are also times when those close to you don’t truly understand what is going on in your mind, heart, home and life. They may give you feedback that may make you feel guilty, irresponsible or ashamed when you should be understood and supported. Sometimes what you are doing is meeting needs for those around you even if it is not the best thing for you. We can look at your situation objectively. The Christian counselor is specifically trained to know what you need in relationship to your spiritual, personal and familial life and how to accomplish your goals in a positive and constructive manner.
Myth 10 - Counselors try to dig up the past.
Our professional counseling services are solution-focused, rooted in the present and future. We explore the past if that is what a client needs to move forward but we focus on helping clients identify their goals and achieve them.
Christian Counselors have a vast toolbox of skills which we can apply including assessment, professional therapy procedures and learning methods, Bible knowledge and a genuine love for God and others to meet your therapeutic needs.
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McMAHAN COUNSELING PLLC
11523 Kanis Rd, Suite B
Little Rock, Arkansas 72211